I have lived near the ocean for most of my life. I love the water, especially the Gulf of Mexico. With the waves lapping the surface over and over and a horizon that stretches on and on; here I am reminded of eternity, of hope. Here I find God. Living near a body of water…
When my husband announced his long-term affair to me, the bottom of my world dropped out. Everything I thought was real was not. Everything I knew I could count on, I could not. I plunged headfirst into the depths of the grief process. I could barely make it through the day. I could not eat…
Even thought it has been three and a half years since the disclosure of the affair, the path to forgiveness is a work in progress. I have spent much time on my knees, and hours doing research in a quest to understand how this happened to me and how to process it with the hope…
Guys. This is your article. This is hands down one of the best articles I have ever read on the subject of Infidelity and how it can happen to a faithful member. I would love for this article to get more traction out there, it is simply something we all must understand. I would share…
This morning the Church announced alternate arrangements for conference due to the Covid-19 virus. It got me thinking about conference, and then thinking about how conference has influenced my own healing. In the October 2019 session, there were several messages that really hit home for me. There were many talks and phrases that spoke to…
When we are plunged into the world of limbo, uncertainty, trauma, and fear, everything we thought we knew to be true tends to disappear. The future is hazy and uncertain. It seems to evaporate before our eyes. No longer do we know what our life will look like in six months, a year, ten years….
In December of 2016 I faced having Christmas in a post-infidelity world. I was still raw; I was only four months from D-day, and only two weeks from discovering who his affair partner was (one of my very closest friends). I felt like I was a walking open wound. Decorations were everywhere, people were singing,…
When my husband announced out of the blue on a sunny afternoon in August that he had not been faithful, I immediately went into shock. I did not know at the time that this was why I felt light-headed, had this obnoxious buzzing in my ears, my body was beginning to shake, and I thought…
“You are not defined by your darkest hour. You are greater than what has been stolen from you. It is never too late to heal. It is never too late to make a fresh start. It is never too late to have your heart restored.” — Kimberly Poovey My child has recently become obsessed with…
Friends, I have to apologize. I took a big break here from posting. And my only defense is heartache. A pattern of mine is withdrawing when things are hard. And it’s been hard. So I have been neglecting my little community, and I am sorry and ready to get back in. I had noticed the…
Tonight I feel so lost. I feel so weighed down at all. Tonight feels like a really good night to address those deep dark fears. One day I feel so positive, so in control of my life and future, like a freaking self-care ninja. I’m feeling spiritual and healed. And then a week like this…
Forgiveness. Oh boy. This is such a loaded topic for me. I’ve always thought of myself as someone who was pretty good at forgiving. I’m not a grudge holder. I’ve always been grateful for the doctrines of repentance and forgiveness. But then, maybe like you, my life was changed forever due to someone else’s choices….
Hi! This is where I blog about how the effects of infidelity converge with being a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Read More
Jane
